I have been out of town for a while and I had a wonderful time! I enjoyed Portland, Oregon and the perfect mix of work and fun.
Talking to people all day for 5 days was exhausting and inspiring because everyone has a story to share. I met some amazing people who give unselfishly of their time and their hearts.
I recently wrote about how to say “No” graciously and honestly. But there is also a value in saying, “Yes.” We smile when we say this small but powerful word. It brings action, adventure and education. It can bring us together and help us along. It is a gateway, an open door, an endless possibility.
My habit is to be affirmative first. “Jane, do you want to . . . ?” is usually followed by a “Why not?” I am not talking about crazy stuff but chances to enhance my life or other’s lives. I cannot find any studies on the facial muscles used to say “yes’ as opposed to “no.” But, when you try it, it feels as if you cannot help but smile a little when you are positive as opposed to negative.
“A nice person is a ‘yes’ person, whereas a good person is a person who accepts their responsibility in things and moves forward and tries to constantly evolve and isn’t afraid to say no or challenge someone or be honest or truthful.” Miranda Kerr
There are people out there whose knee jerk reaction is to say “No” first . . . all the time. I am always surprised by this. How about mixing up the positive and negative? How about taking a chance, trusting your instinct and stepping out. Portland was a last-minute decision for me and boy oh boy it was worth each Y,E and S.
“Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes.” Eleanor Roosevelt
There is a fine balance between the two and remember to take care of yourself too but jump in once in a while, the “yes” water is fine!